Gay trans man

By Jacob Rostovsky, MA

Keywords: Gay, Transgender, Penis

For some individuals, to be a trans person male (someone who is assigned female at birth and identifies as male) in this hour is hard enough. But when you add in spotting as gay (attracted to men and identifying as male), it can build life even more difficult. As a transgender gay male, I know this first hand. As a therapist who has worked with many transgender men who also distinguish as gay, I know that it is common for gay trans men to experience a flooding of thoughts when being out in the lgbtq+ male community. Some of these involve anxiety and phobia, especially when going to bars and clubs. Most of these clients participate the fear that not having a penis could lay them in a precarious situation. Their thoughts generally drop into the accompanying themes: 

• Would someone discover out they don’t have a penis?
• Would someone hurt them, or even sexually assault them, because they don’t acquire a penis?
• Will they be able to go to the bathroom without panic and bother?
•  Is someone going to produce rude comments, or fetishizing ones, or tell them they don’t belong?
• How much of their darkness is going to be spent in

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  Hi Kai,

  I’m a lgbtq+ trans man in my 20s and I’ve been transitioning for five years. I’m really cheerful with my progress and contain pretty much met all my transition goals. The only thing that still gives me dysphoria is how intimidated I gain around cis men. 

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  When I was really young, the first queer people I ever met were TERFS (trans exclusionary radical feminists) who taught me to hate and fear masculinity, so you can imagine the damage that did. When they found out I was questioning my identity, it didn’t move over well. 

  Nowadays all my friends are allies, and I’m seeing a therapist about my trauma. But I still find myself flocking to spaces that contain very few or no guys in them. I’ve tried going to queer bars, but I procure so intimidated that I finish up leaving after one guzzle. When a man speaks to me, I inst

  Where are the films about trans men-loving-men?

  It was only recently I saw a feature film about a trans man in a gay relationship for the first time.

  I see a lot of queer cinema - I watched over 60 LGBTQIA+ films in 2023. I couldn’t assume it took me so long to find films made about us, for us.

  Although I didn’t hope for representation to mean so much to me, I was overcome with passion while watching - and when I started feeling that way, I didn’t really want it to stop.

  The first film I saw was Rūrangi - a film about a trans man reconnecting with his hometown, rekindling a connection with an mature flame along the way. After that, I set up two more: Mutt and Fanfic - both stories focusing on trans-masc experiences. 

  A pattern was forming: all three films came out in the 2020s, celebrity trans actors, and both Rūrangi and Mutt were written and/or directed by transmasculine people. Is this the start of an era of films for trans men loving men? 

  Perhaps this isn’t entirely a surprise, given that journalists have also noted a shift in the perceptions of gender more widely since 2020. It’s a hopeful trend. 

  Before this, there was little progress. A few
  
  

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  Who is Finlay?

  Finlay is a transgender recovery writer and blogger who, after battling through his addiction, found a territory in which to share his journey and help others along the way.

  After discovering there was a severe lack of representation of the older, transgender community online, he set up his YouTube channel. This, along with his blog are his way of paying it forward and helping others realise they too can rewrite their stories and go on to live their lives in the best way possible.

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  I came out as transsexual in 2010 and began my medical transition soon after. A few years later, in 2018, I realised I was attracted to men, and I came out as gay. My organism both transgender and gay often causes people a lot of confusion. I receive questions such as, “Did the hormones turn you gay?” Or, “So this means your boyfriend must be bisexual?” And my favourite, “Why did you even bother to transition if you were going to date men?” In the monitoring blog, I will answer the