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The following research facts is summarised from the published serve ofDr. David P. McWhirter, MD and Dr. Andrew M. Mattison, MSW, PhD(professional & personal partners, sadly now both deceased).
Growth in Lgbtq+ Male Couple Relationships
Over a 5-year period (1974 to 1979), David P. McWhirter, MD and Andrew M. Mattison MSW, PhD interviewed in-depth 156 gay male couples (in the California, San Diego County area) about their significant / intimate couple relationship.
The couples interviewed were not in therapy had been living together as male to male partners anywhere from 1 to more than 37 years, and were not in therapy. The mean moment in each connection was 8.7 years, with the median being slightly over 5 years.
This analyze documents how intimate relationships between two men develop and become sustained.
From the interview data, McWhirter and Mattison identified: Six Developmental Stages Of Relationship between gay male couples(the first four stages occurring within the first 10 years of the couple’s relationship).
These developmental stages of gay couples were originally presented as tentative formulations needing furth
Gay Men in Open Relationships: What Works?
Hint: It will take a lot of work.
As a couples counselor working with gay men I am often asked my opinion on monogamy and unseal LGBTQ relationships. What works for men in long-term relationships? First, the research.
Several research studies exhibit that about 50% of lgbtq+ male couples are monogamous and about 50% allow for sex outside of the relationship. The research finds no difference in the level of happiness or stability among these groups.
Next, my opinions and advice, based on my therapy practice.
Talk About It Openly With Your Partner
If you and your partner want to have a close relationship and have additional sex partners, be prepared for a lot of talking. And I’m not just referring to discussions about when, where and with whom. I mean talking about feelings, what we therapists call “processing.”
If that kind of conversation makes you squirm, I understand. Most men are not socialized to accept the sharing of intimate and vulnerable emotions. However, if you aren’t willing to experiment with processing then I suspect the closeness of your relationship may be limited, and you guys could be headed for
Hollywood’s Gay Power Couples: Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor, More
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Hollywood's Gay Control Couples: Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor, More
Love is love! Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor, Elton John and David Furnish, and more famous queer couples have lived out their fairy-tale romances in the public eye. The American Horror Story actress was first linked to Taylor in 2015, and the pair have been going strong ever since. In January 2019, Paulson opened up about how her relationship with the Two and a Half Men alum began. "We met a very, very prolonged time ago," Paulson said on Watch What Happens Live With Andy Cohen, joking that Taylor slid into her DMs. "I was with someone else ... and then there was, like, a Twitter thing that happened. We were doing a thing at Martha Plimpton's property, it was for an organization that she was working with, and we were both doing a PSA for it. We sort of breezed by one another and started following each other on Twitter." Since taking her relationship with Taylor common, Paulson has been candid about her "unconventional" pers
I’ve held this personal bias (irrational judgment?) against non-monogamous relationships for years.
I’ve had two open relationships in the past and both ended badly. But I also happen to have several really good friends who are either in or have explored relationships beyond monogamy, which are generally more common in the queer people. So, I often find myself bumping up against my subconscious judgments of people who I respect and adoration simply for having a relationship arrangement that didn’t function out for me.
Recently, I decided it was finally moment I confront my bias head-on and hear some friends out on their experiences with non-monogamy: the good, the bad, and the beautiful.
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First, I was curious why it seemed so many queers just couldn’t sound to keep it in their pants, even after deciding to commit. Build no mistake, monogamous relationships are still the standard, regardless of how you identify. However, a recent study suggests 30% of lgbtq+ men are actively in non-monogamous relationships. Some might even argue that this figure is on the more conservative side of already available data. It does stand to rea