Straight men acting gay
For a long moment, friendships between male lover men and direct men – what some now dial “bromosexual” friendships – were uncommon. Homophobia was likely one reason; another was that straight men probably assumed they didn’t have much in common with gay men.
But lately, “bromosexual” friendships have started to receive more attention, acceptance and interest. They’re being explored and depicted in movies, books and blogs. In October, The New York Times even loyal an article in their Style section to “The Ascend of the ‘Bromosexual’ Friendship.”
This sort of normalization is wonderful news. But social scientists still haven’t studied the dynamics of these friendships: why they advance and how they’re maintained.
We’re part of a team of community, evolutionary and social psychologists that has recently begun a analyze program with the goal of studying this very topic. Specifically, we’re interested in looking at the reasons male lover men and direct men become friends (or remain friends after the same-sex attracted friend comes out). We currently acquire a survey research underway that explores some of the positive outcomes of “bromosexual” friendships, including our theory that gay men and straight men
Why do some straight men contain sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the Combined States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the fresh book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they enjoy a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why accomplish straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they wanted. Sex with men allowed them to own more sex. They don’t regard sex with men cheating and s
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Straight men acting like they consider gay sex is gross is not believable. We perceive men love seeing other men’s penises and erections. This may seem prefer a statement that surprises you, but consider this: in porn designed for straight men, semen coming out of a penis is literally the “money shot.” Getting to see another male climax is the climax of the story for the straight male viewer. Men really love penises, both their own, and other people’s.
Another factor that reflects the notion of straight men pretending they ponder gay sex is gross, is vertical men’s interest (obsession?) in anal sex. Based on hundreds (thousands?) of pieces of media, we know quite definitively that many men really like to put their penises in anuses.
The first time I noticed that str
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Last October, male lover magazine Out ran a spotlight on Minnesota Vikings punter Chris Kluwe, who had recently written a scathing letter to politician Emmett Burns criticizing him for his anti-gay platform. According to Out, Kluwe’s letter was published on the popular sports website Deadspin and has since gone viral, sparking tremendous controversy and debate in the worlds of sports and politics, as good as in general news outlets. Kluwe’s advocacy of gay rights was clearly unusual, otherwise it would not have garnered the public attention that it did. A gesture of support for gay rights is not itself newsworthy, at least not in this day and age; what made this one unusual was the evidence that it came from an NFL athlete. The NFL has traditionally not been particularly hospitable to the gay rights movement, possibly because professional sports leagues have always been seen to be bastions of heterosexual masculinity. As a straight man, I’ve noticed that my fellow straight men seem to be an underrepresented demographic in the American political arena for gay rights. Even more underrepresented are pro athletes, who are culturally perceived to be in th